What are you afraid to feel?
All of us experience hard times and uncomfortable feelings. All of us! We may encounter sadness, disappointment, embarrassment or invalidation, as well as many other uncomfortable feelings. Our busy minds don’t recognize it, but we have unconsciously honed a skill to avoid uncomfortable feelings. This avoidance is a form of fear. This fear of discomfort motivates us to find more comfort.
This need for perceived control over our experience may distract and cause distress. We may seek out pleasure to ease mental discomfort. Over time, our unchecked mindset perpetuates more avoidance. Sometimes this leads to isolation. Oftentimes, this leads to frustration with self and circumstances. My clients living with anxiety will often share some version of this pattern and report feeling broken or disappointed in themselves.
How do you distract from discomfort?
We are not broken. We inherently possess intelligence, the skill of awareness, and the quality of kindness. These will ease difficulties. With help, and the learning and practice of a variety of skills, we can consciously choose a more peaceful approach.
